Realise your helplessness.

Humans are petty helpless people, yet it does come as a surprse that they are sometimes eager to help other helpless people out. Helplessness is inherent to the innate nature of the typical human.

Take any situation for instance, a human being may try to take decisions, however small while looking for a solution towards taking a decision at any point in life. It is seldom that the person in question is himself able to take a decision of his own accord. Mostly, he has to rely, or voluntrarily relies on the advise of other people, and this advice is most often unwanted, is given by other helpless humans who are in no condition to take the decision themselves, they would rateher tell you to do this or that or provide you with an opinion of what is good and wht is bad for you, but more often than not, they will definitely be in no position to tell you what actually will work for you, obviously only you can help yourself in that.

To make my point clear I would take the help of an example. We has a family whih lived near our residense, there were four members n the family, the parents and their two sons, with a age difference of two years. Both were academically intelligent and passed their classes with flying colors. The elder son scored 90+ percent in his class 10 and was admitted to one of the best schools in delhi in the medical stream, later he cracked the coveted medical seat and was the talk of the town with his photos on the pamphlets distributed by the coaching institute, of which he was a student. The parents were proud.

The younger son followed suit and scored more than his brother in class 10, he too was admitted in the same school as his brother after class 10. He to studied hard and reached his goal of a coveted medical seat in Delhi. Th parents were more than happy.

The neighbors were never short of praising the children and their parents alike. Every parent wanted their wards to be the future doctors and do their parents proud as the neighbor's sons. Moreover, they satrted coming to our neighbors with their children to seek advise on as to how to coach their children wo were "not serious" towards studies. Also, they were interested to know about the coaching classes the brothers had been to, they were ready to spend the cash, irrespective of the amount on the coaching to get their children to the threshold of the best medical college.

One such inquisitive family was on with 5 members- parents, elder sister, brother, younger sister. The father was a government employee, the mother ran a beauty parlor, no the on which comes to your mind when you think of it, but one of those hat you encounter at almost every corner of every colony in our country. The elder sister was studying in an engineering college, also she used to teach dance to young children for a minimal fee and help her mother with the parlour in her free time. Where did she get the time to study, is still an unanswered question for me. The brother was also in the same engineering college but a class lower than the elder sister. Well, as for him, he studied almost all the time.

The elder sister graduated and joined a call centre. The money earned was depodited for marriage. The brother after graduating was unable to find a job for sometime and later on joined a bank as a sales executive , a role which made no use of his skills. The younger sister was studying in school in the medical stream when the younger of the two boys of our neighbours was admitted to the medicla college. The mother of the girl thought, if he can then why not my daughter. This led her to chide her daughter for studying. The younger daughter was not that intelligent as the boys who has made it to the medical college. She studied hard. The mother payed the fee of Rupes two lacs to the coaching institute ( which the two brothers had joined earlier). However, afer then exams the results were not in her favour, she was broken .

Her dream of becoming a doctor was shattered. Nevertheless, she decided to give it another shot the next year. Her brother, meanwhile, had found a job with a reatail chain, though his salary was still meagre. The younger sister studied hard, sometimes falling asleep over her books in the process. She appeared for all the exams once again. But as if it was written in her destiny, she was unable to clear the exams. Since she had both medical and non-medical subjects in school, she was also elligible to appear for the engineering exams also. She appeared in the engineering exams and was able to secure payed seat in one of the private engineering colleges in Tamil nadu. The payed seat actually costs 3 times a norml merit seat. Seeing all this, what came to my mind were these question,

Is a normal human being so immature that he cannot recognise his innate capabilities.
Is a human being also, so very influenced by the choices that other peopele, not related to him in any way, make?
In context to the story above... will the girl do her engineering and become successful or will she alwas have a want for the profession that she alwas wanted to pursue?
Would'nt have it been a god idea for her to identify what was actually that she wanted to do, and I might have been neither medicine nor engineering ?
Is following the path that your parents think is right actually right for a student ?
Is it not that the awareness gathered during the student life must be utilised to make further decisions which are bound to affect you for the rest of your lives ?

I know, that I ask a lot of questions... but...give m your viewpoint...and we'll talk about the differnce, if any, which might surface.